I've been seeing a guy for the last month. He has a partner who he lives with and has no intention of leaving her for me. I am a strong independent person, and cannot believe that I've been suckered into such a situation but whenever he calls, I'm always jumping to go and see him. Now I saw him yesterday and he said he'd call me today, he hasn't and I know it was just a line.

It's very emotionally draining for me to be on edge all the time, and its affecting my relationships with other people as I turn down going out because he said we'd go out and then doesn't call. I have built a wall up around myself when I'm with him because I'm unsure of my position. I can't understand his behaviour and don't pretend to. I went into this with open eyes, and now am tied up in a situation I have put myself in. I can't vocalise these thoughts because I am relatively happy when

Let's examine your relationship with this guy for a moment. He's got a woman whom he lives with and he's made it clear he's not going to leave her to be with you. While he has a life with this woman he's living with, your life is on hold as you sit by the phone waiting for him to call. He says he'll call, but he never does - a sign that you're not a priority in his life. But yet you fear that you're going to "mess things up."

Do you feel you're not worthy of a great relationship with a guy who is there for you and loves you? My advice, break it off with this guy ASAP, find a good counselor or therapist and work on the issues you have so you can move forward with your life and find a guy who will treat you right. Also, grab a copy of Break Up Blues: A Guide to Survival and Growth by Deni Cullington. This book will give you the start you need to get your love life on track and stop dating losers!